When somebody gave me advice that I didn’t ask for, it used to feel like a slap on the face. (I bet you know what I mean.)
Having ideas that go against the grain is hard enough.
But then when people tell you you’re wrong or thinking about things incorrectly, it stings.
Now when people give me unsolicited advice, I’m usually amused.
Because what I know for sure is that if you’re listening to your deep inner wisdom and knowing, you will always make the right decision for you.
Three weeks ago, my husband (N) and I were headed home from a day spent at our favorite nature spot.
It was a really good day. The weather was beautiful, we felt relaxed, happy, and playful, and we were aware of how much we were enjoying each other’s company.
Over dinner, the conversation turned to our upcoming 10th anniversary—how time has flown and how we still can’t get enough of each other. I mentioned to N, “Thank God, I never listened to the unsolicited advice” that came my way when I decided to marry him.
I had different ideas about marriage and romantic relationships than what was popular and didn’t subscribe to common viewpoints on how things should be. My personal philosophy, perspectives, and the way I was choosing to live my life were unsettling for those around me, and most times, these people felt I needed to be corrected in some way.
Hearing other people’s opinions, advice, and thoughts used to fill me with self-doubt. Sometimes these voices would even crowd out my own!